31 WEEKS 4 DAYS!

What the what?!!? I can’t believe we are so close to number three joining us.  I gotta admit, I am scared to death.  Wrangling two kids is hard and I have never hidden the fact that being a stay at home dad is a lot harder than I thought it would be. It is beyond rewarding, but this winter we have struggled.  The kids and I have stayed sick.  We have cabin fever.  We are supposed to get a foot of snow TONIGHT! AHHHHH!

But you know what, despite the growing pains, I am happier than I have ever been in my life.  And I know it is going to keep getting better and better and better and better…….

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Love Day…

I know that a lot of people have A LOT of feels about Valentines Day.  Personally, I dig it, but I think that has to do with the fact that my wife is amazing and isn’t picky.  I have heard about men getting in “trouble” with their spouses because they didn’t get the right thing. Are you serious?

For V-Day I alway try to send my wife some flowers at work.  It not only gives her something pretty to look at in her office, but it gives her a chance to show off how great I am to her co-workers haha!

So, even though V-Day isn’t until this Saturday, I had her flowers delivered on Monday, that way they can be enjoyed all week.

Here is the arrangement I got for her:

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She was very excited and appreciated the thought and making her happy makes me happy so hey, we are all happy.

I was lucky enough to be able to partner with Florists.com for this Valentines day.  Since Mecalah is 30 weeks pregnant that was a godsend.

The other AWESOME thing that comes along with me working with them is I get to offer you 25% off of your Valentines Flowers! They even have same day delivery if you find yourself cramped for time!

Happy Love Day to all my Mommas and Pappys!

 

25% off Valentine’s Day Flowers with Code: BEMINE25

Trying to be a #healthydad

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We are still pretty blown away that we are expecting our THIRD kid.  It seems a little overwhelming still.  Every time Mecalah has said she was pregnant I immediately clean out our cabinets and go on a health kick.  There is just something about creating life that makes me question my mortality I guess.  I want to know that I am going to be able to be there for my kids and be active and vital for as long as possible.

We had actually already been making some lifestyle changes and I will happily brag about them for a moment.  In the past 90 days I have lost ten pounds and my blood pressure is the LOWEST it has been in FIVE YEARS! I won’t tell you what it is (haha) because it is still high.  But, like I said, we are making progress.

I am lucky enough to be working with Anthem Blue Cross Blue Shield at the moment on their #healthydad campaign.  As part of it, I wanted to share a couple of tips with you about how you can become a more #healthydad.

The next three tips are things I have been doing recently to be more healthy.

My first tip is to skip that late night glass of wine.  The Pappy loves his Red Wine.  That is certainly no secret and I used to drink an extra glass around bedtime because I felt like it helped me go to sleep.  After doing some reading, though, I have discovered that isn’t totally the case.  Yes it may be helping me go to sleep, but it isn’t helping me STAY asleep.  As my body processed that alcohol and extra sugars it was lessening my REM sleep! I have slept much better cutting that glass out!

Secondly, dump those canned veggies!  This was easier this summer because I could simply walk outside and pick from my garden what I wanted.  But even as it gets colder I am determined not to go back to the cans!  I was shocked how much salt they have in them!

My last tip for today is to schedule your “Well Daddy” visit. Your insurance company now covers your once a year check up!  You wouldn’t think of ignoring the fact your kid was do for their “Well Baby” visit would you? So don’t ignore yours!

We are all super busy and Anthem Blue Cross Blue Shield has a new program called LiveHealth Online!  You can video chat with a Doctor, so basically telehealth is the new house call.  Even if you and your kids are sick, there is no reason you can’t chat with your Doctor. Seriously, you can’t beat that.

Before I let you go, I want to let you in on a contest that we are running right now also!  YOU CAN WIN CASH MONEY! All you have to do is make a #healthydad video like mine below and submit it to the facebook page!  You can find the rules and more about the contest here: www.facebook.com/healthydads

The Pappy would love to see one of y’all win!

I want to say a big thank you to Anthem Blue Cross Blue Shield who is sponsoring this post. They are not, however, affiliated with the #healthydad video contest which is sponsored solely by XY Media.  Anything written above by me is simply my advice as a parent and should in no way be used as the advice as a medical professional.

I don’t say enough that The Pappy has been through some difficult times with depression. In fact, at the behest of my family, I spent ten days at a Stabilization Center a couple of years ago. That place saved my life.
Do you need help tonight? If so, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ‘1-800-273-TALK (8255)’.


Depression isn’t something you can pray away, laugh off, or just toughen up and move through. It is a struggle, a battle, a disease. I pray that the loss of one of the great entertainers of our time will help us stop ignoring the mental health crisis in our country. Rest well, Mr. Williams.

 

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Yelling Sucks…

As my kids get older and more independant I have found that it takes more and more patience to get through the day.  I can hear the resounding “DUH” coming from all of my readers, but when I first started staying home with them I really felt I was a patient as I could be. Now I see that I have to continue growing it and thickening my skin every day.

I try not to focus on the times I fail as a parent, but 90% of the time a failure on my part ends with me yelling. I hate when I yell.  It is usually lazy parenting because I feel like I have run out of the ability to get on their level and be real with them. Yes, yelling usually ends whatever conflict was going on, but I didn’t solve anything in the long run.  If your kid is not learning from your discipline it is pointless.

Which is a why I say, yelling sucks…

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YELLING SUCKS THE JOY OUT OF THE ROOM. Think about the look on your kid’s face the last time you yelled at them.  That wide eyed look is one of fear.  If your child is obeying you out of fear, the second you are out of view the old behavior is going to come back.  I want my kid to look at me and know I love him.  When I am yelling, that is not how he feels.

YELLING SUCKS THE TRUST OUT OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP. This goes back to the whole aspect of your child fearing you.  A child who is afraid of you doesn’t respect you.  They may respect the pain that comes from your hand hitting them.  They may respect the sadness that comes from you loosing it on them. They don’t, however, respect you as a trusted teacher.  They don’t respect you as someone they can trust to demonstrate how to live a happy life.

YELLING SUCKS THE SATISFACTION OUT OF PARENTING. At the end of the day, when I lay my head on my pillow, I want to look back on what has happened with the feeling that I did my best to create a secure and happy environment for my family.  If you are flashing back to the times you raised your voice throughout the day you are not going to look forward to getting up and “Dadding” again the next day.  Parenting, although so very hard, is supposed to be wonderful, but unhappy kids are usually the result of lazy parenting.  No child is happy sitting and watching PBS Kids all day, even if that is what they think they want.

Yelling sucks.  We can do better Moms and Dads.  We can do so much better!